Good day lovers!!! Its been a minute since I wrote a new blog. Busy with the holidays but I'm back. Everyone loves love. Today I want to discuss giving too much too soon or continuing to give when its better to give up. I know we all have been in a situation where we do too much. Whether its work, home, personal, friends, fam or lovers. Specifically, I wanna discuss in love & relationships. It may apply to other areas so apply it there if you can. Here is the scenario. You meet a person. You & that person click. Sometimes one person is a lil more eager n "connected" than the other. No big deal. Often one person knows, one person holds back, not sure or whatever for whatever reasons. How do u know when to pursue, how much to show or give & when to keep it moving???? We all been there. We are giving whatever it is we are giving. It may be affection, gifts, doing things we never done before for that person, bending our rules, going that extra step or mile or simply just doing whatever it is you can to show that special someone u care n want to take things further. Giving too much too soon. What do u do? How much to give or not give? Is that person using you? Is that person scared, hurt or not sure? Where do u begin or end? My best advice from experience is go with your first mind, follow your heart yet be wise && always I mean ALWAYS use your gut or intuition. Most likely, if u have doubt, reservations, questions, wonder or any of that, most likely u are right. We just either 1. don't listen to it or 2. because we have no proof or enough proof and/or logical reasons or explanations we continue to "hope" and some ya'll pray. STOP. All the signs are there. You are doing too much. Someone who wants u as much as u want them will show you & will not want to lose you. They will make it obvious that they want you in their life. No excuse, no being scared nothing like that. You hear me. When we want something guess what? We do not send out mixed signals. When we really want something we do it. Like Nike, we JUST DO IT. Its actually really simple. Why wait n look for an explanation? You don't need one. They show you. Stop what your doing & back away. The sooner the better. Of course, when someone loses something good they notice it. Be very discerning & careful when deciding whether to continue on with these people or situations. Remember all the things you have been doing? Do they really appreciate you or miss the good shit??? Like i said its actually simple. We know when something is not good for us. We were all born with insight & intuition. Stop looking for reasons to stay when you have enough reasons to go or stop. We deserve the very best. Someone who truly loves & appreciates us. There is someone for everyone. In the meantime, enjoy you. Work on you. Bring to the table what you expect back. Its okay to be alone. If you don't like your own company how the hell u expect someone else to?? Real Talk. When things are meant to be, you know. Its easy. They "feel" right. Things flow easily. The old saying trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. If there is adversity {{ I don't mean average things people go through }} or too much work. Time to go. A relationship or pursuit of a person should not make you feel drained, wondering, confused or not fulfilling. That's like going out to eat n spending time, money & gas on an expensive meal then feeling hungry & disappointed afterward. We wouldn't like that. In fact, we'd complain n never go back. Even tell all our friends about our crappy experience {{ and on Twitter or FB }} and never go back. I ask u this? Then why go back to that same person, situation or whatever it is if you are not satisfied. There u go my people. xoxo Dee P.S. Things that were meant to be are easy to attain even when hard work is involved. We feel like our hard work "paid off" BESITOZ :::: NOW GO && LOVE YOUR OWN COMPANY && LOVE WITH ALL YOUR HEART BUT DON'T BE STOOOOOPID IN THE PROCESS :)
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