<----------- I'm sure we all know someone like this. They complain & whine. Ugh. Now there is a difference if people think out loud but are not expecting anyone to hear them or get solutions/advice from others but plain ole saying what you may feel about things. I do this. I beat myself up about things. I say, "man, I shouldn't have spent that or did this". I am not complaining only stating my thoughts out loud. What I mean is pessimistic, never satisfied, helpless and usually not too happy about anything people. We all "vent" and that's okay but constant on & on what you don't like, don't know what to do, can't do & so on. Yes, those people. There are so many more ways to nag, whine & complain. I see complaining as a manipulation tool. You are not happy & you are manipulating others to seeing, doing things your way by complaining. Maybe you want help but instead of asking you complain. That's manipulating. You don't want to do something and a good one, you want it given to you or done for you. So you complain. And complain hoping someone will bend, come to the rescue to save you or finally give in just so you would shut the hell up. I see this often when people are requesting some type of assistance & the person is being told they can't have what the want or not as much help as they wanted. They bitch in an aggressive way. They say it loudly and forceful with intent to demand the person to give them what they want. That IS PURE MANIPULATION. Some people get scared & just give in. I have worked in customer service, restaurants & the like. People did this to me. It never worked. I would tell them, you know what I think you might wanna talk to my manager. Outside of professionalism, well, I let them have it. It is also a form of being a bully. If you think your loud complaining is gonna make me do ANYTHING you are sorely wrong! I have some words of truth for you & great suggestions that you can not argue with. Eventually I will kindly make you look & feel dumb. I understand why people complain but as I say don't waste your thoughts, words & energy complaining. It won't change a thing. Instead replace it with what you do want, make great strides & efforts for those things. Remember what we don't get is because the universe has something better or knows what is good for us (not always what we want). Anytime you get ready to complain, stop, pause, take a breath & replace it with what you Do want. Then make the changes needed to obtain it. If its something you can not change immediately learn to cope better & accept things, for the faster we do this the faster the obstacle is removed from our lives because we accepted it. The mind no longer sees is as a negative. I will say more on this subject in the future but for now. Stay positive, accept things for what they are as they are & continue to attract positive by thinking, speaking & being positive. Try it & you will see the magic as I have. Love & Kisses xoxo Dee ------> P.S.See Image Below |
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